One of my favorite things about J is that he loves me [and the kids] really well. And believe me, if you'd been a fly on the wall last week, you'd know that his love is a constant despite my own ickiness. We'll just say I didn't make it easy for him :)
I haven't talked a whole lot about our move and our last days in Oklahoma. I think I am still processing through the chaos of activities and emotions. It was a lot.
About a week before we moved, we promised the kids that we would go get ice cream at our favorite place one more time before we left. We realized the morning of our closing that we never followed through on that promise, so we decided we would stop on our way out of town.
Our closing finished up just after lunch time so we headed out from the office with plans to meet at the ice cream shop. J had to stop at the bank and get gas in his car so I knew I had a little extra time. We left in a bit of rush that morning so I wanted to drive past the house one more time. It just needed to be a proper goodbye.
As we slowed down in the street and looked at the house that was no longer our home, Bo began crying from the back seat.
"Mom, I changed my mind. I don't want to move. I don't want to leave. Take it back, please."
Through my tears, I tried to tell him it would be okay. There would be new experiences, new friends, new exciting things, but he didn't buy it. So I then explained that it was just a house, and we would have another house, a great house, with all his toys and familiar things.
"But there won't be a cool play set in the back yard," he wailed.
I explained that there would be parks and plenty of thing, but he moaned and sobbed that they wouldn't be at
our house anymore.
"It's better to have a park in your back yard than to have to go to a park!" And he hung his head and let the tears fall.
I reminded him that it was okay to be sad. I was sad too. And then I just had to drive away slowly and fight to see the road through my tears. Geez, I cry just thinking about it again!
We'd only been here a mere 48 hours when J disappeared into our bedroom on the phone and came out a few minutes later dressed and ready to go. He needed to run a quick errand, he said, and he got his things together to head out the door. It was relatively early in the day, the chaos of breakfast still littered the barely functional kitchen and none of us were dressed.
What? I thought and said. I pressed him as to where he could possible need to go right. this. second. We had quite a bit going on that needed attention.
He was trying to keep it a secret, he said, but he took me over to his laptop and showed me a picture of a playset he'd found on craigslist. It was $50 but he needed to be there asap to pick it up. I broke down. It was such an incredibly moving action. He knew the kids were mourning the loss of so many things. While a playset doesn't change those losses, it certainly was a needed element of the transition. He knew I had been blankly staring at boxes and spaces that are smaller than the ones we had before and had wondered what and how I would keep these kids occupied on our awkward [and very hilly] lot. He was a knight in shining armor in that instant. I shuffled him out the door and told the kids very simply that daddy had to run an errand.
It took him a couple of days to get everything repainted and sturdy. He replaced a few parts as well. J is nothing if not thorough; he does everything well! It's something I really love and appreciate about him although it took some getting used to when we first got married.
The kids were beyond themselves with excitement, and they have loved every minute on that thing. We're enjoying it now, but I think that when it gets just a
little bit cooler it will be an even bigger hit.
Jack's swing stayed behind on the old playset, so J took the big kids with him to get a new swing while Jack napped. When they got home, I sent him out to the van to see what daddy brought home.
Oh, my, was he excited or what?
It wasn't too long before we got it on the swing set.
And he was off.

We've got ladders.
And slides.

And swings, oh my!

And the monkey bars may be our new favorite.

They are still learning to do them on their own, but they are great with a little "spotting" from mom or dad.

What a blessing to have something so simple to help make this house feel more like a home!